"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." - Mother
As usual, Mom was right.
This is especially true if you are going through a divorce. You have nothing to gain and much to lose by badmouthing your spouse on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media platforms.
It Is A Good Time To Go Under The Radar Online
We're all human and it's natural to want to vent to others when we are hurt, angry or going through a difficult time. However, speaking to a loved one or a friend in person or on the phone is a much better option than airing your laundry on your Facebook page.
Social media has become the next frontier of divorce, as lawyers and private investigators have begun using the popular sites to discover information they can use in their clients' cases. This includes catching clients' spouses cheating, doing drugs and engaging in other behaviors that could affect issues such as child custody, alimony and child support.
Even if you are not engaging in questionable behavior, it is a good idea to keep a low profile during your divorce. It is the only way to make sure that innocent comments or photos of your latest vacation are not taken out of context in an attempt to damage your case.
Your Attorney Will Agree
In a recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML), three-quarters of the attorneys surveyed said they had experienced an increase in social media evidence being used in divorce and family law cases.
Two-thirds of those lawyers considered Facebook to be the "primary source" of the evidence gleaned from social media. Photos posted to Facebook are often a gold mine of evidence, lending credence to the phrase that "a picture is worth a thousand words."
Social Media Do's And Don'ts
If you are considering divorce or going through a divorce, please consider the following:
- DO cancel or suspend your social media accounts, if you can temporarily live without them.
- DO keep a low profile on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media.
- DO be cautious about posting pictures.
- DO be judicious in your "check-ins."
- DO manage your privacy settings to limit what your spouse, spouse's friends and spouse's family members are able to access on your profile.
- DON'T speak poorly of your spouse.
- DON'T vent about the proceedings in your case.
- DON'T post about a new relationship.
- DON'T post cryptic statuses about what is going on in your life.
- DON'T make references to partying, alcohol or drugs.
- DON'T post about purchases you have made or your income.
Above all else, if you wouldn't want your ex's attorney or a judge to see something, DON'T post it.
Remember, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.