Going through divorce is a painful experience. Although divorce can be the right decision, there is no such thing as an easy divorce. And as devastating as it is for former couples, the biggest impact is on the children involved. But research suggests some ways to minimize damage to children.
Farmington Hills divorce lawyers and others who care about children in a divorce are aware of the importance of such mitigating steps.
The most important things to remember are very simple. Divorce does not give permission to hate your former spouse. Harboring hateful thoughts provides no benefit to anyone. In fact, it usually harms both parents and children. Both parents must be able to work together on the specific problems they face and make children the first priority. Parents should involve children in the process and present divorce as a problem everyone is working together to solve.
Communication with children is also important. Parents should engage in frequent and consistent contact with their children, unless it is absolutely impossible to avoid conflict.
Money is one of the biggest issues in a divorce. Children may not understand why they must adjust to a different standard of living. Parents need to keep this in mind during the adjustment period. Additionally, moving a household is one of the most stressful parts of a divorce. Parents should move or change households as few times as possible to maximize stability for children.
Finally, divorcing couples should remember to take care of themselves during the process. Stress that affects parents necessarily affects children as well. Children’s well-being is directly related to how the custodial parent adjusts after the divorce.
Keeping these guidelines in mind can help divorcing couples maintain a low conflict level throughout the divorce process. This will help achieve the best possible outcome for the children involved.
Source: “The ‘Good’ Divorce,” Christine Carter, Huffington Post, 4-3-12