The reality is that many marriages end. The end can be seamless and amicable, or it can be contentious and drawn out. A Farmington Hills divorce attorney may be able to help couples create a more amicable process, while reaching fair and equitable results in the divorce settlement. Nonetheless, some Michigan couples still have a hard time seeing eye-to-eye in a divorce. In these cases, it is important to keep the fighting and controversy away from any children because divorce can have a negative impact on children.
Thankfully, there are ways to reduce the impact on kids. Parents can seek other routes to divorce outside of litigation. Mediation or collaborative divorce tends to be more cordial. The process also seems to take less time when a judge and courtroom are not involved. The less time children have to worry about the divorce, the better.
It is a good idea to shield the kids from the divorce process. During the process, children will likely be living in separate households for the first time. Instead of using the one-on-one time to talk about the divorce or talk about what is going on in the other spouse’s home, do fun activities that will take the kids’ mind off the negative issues. In addition, always take the high road. Couples should not speak badly of each other in front of their children.
Therapists are also an option for children to help them work through their feelings. Mom and dad may be biased, and a therapist can offer a neutral opinion. As long as parents have found a good therapist, they may even benefit from a session or two themselves.
Finally, parents should take care of themselves because if they fall apart, there will be no support system for the children. Remind children that they are loved no matter what, divorce or no divorce.
Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Ways to Protect Children During Divorce,” Deborah Anderson Bialis, Nov. 25, 2013