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How do I control my emotions during a child custody case?

Did you know that your behavior during your Michigan divorce can have a direct effect on your kids? Although your world is almost certainly being turned upside down, your emotional turmoil may pale in comparison to that being experienced by your children. You need the time and resources to deal with your own emotions during a divorce and child custody proceeding, but you must also manage your kids’ emotional well-being. Today, we answer some questions about helping your youngsters adjust to a new family format.

What demeanor should I maintain? Even though you are falling apart inside, you really need to put a brave face forward for your children. Acknowledge your emotions in a mature, confident way — and seek help from adult friends or resources. This prevents you from unfairly burdening your kids with your problems during a breakup.

Do my kids need extra space during this time? Absolutely. Your children need more privacy and permission to interact with both parents without feeling as though they are being monitored or restricted. If you feel nervous about handing your children over to your ex without some form of supervision — perhaps because of safety concerns — a team of Michigan child custody attorneys may be able to help you obtain special arrangements through the courts.

Is it necessary to be adversarial during a child custody proceeding? No. Even if your family life has already taken a turn for the worse with arguing and negativity, your family can overcome the challenges of divorce. You are almost certainly destined to interact with your children’s other parent for years to come; you might as well make the best of a situation. Being civil or even avoiding each other to avoid conflict will improve the outcomes that your children experience. You can expedite and smooth your Michigan child custody process by involving a qualified team of Detroit visitation rights attorneys.

Source: The Huffington Post, “How Parents’ Behavior Affects Children During a Divorce,” Peter L. Stavinoha, Sep. 15, 2015