It’s safe to say that your kids are probably looking forward to Spring Break more that you are. They get a break from school and some of their responsibilities, but chances are things are not that easy for you. As with the holidays, divorce and custody arrangements can turn school breaks like Spring Break into a complicated mess between you and your ex. Instead of dreading it, here’s what you can do to make things much more amicable and use your kid’s Spring Break as a break from bickering and reach an agreement regarding parenting plans.
Review The Custody Arrangement
During the divorce, the subject of school breaks was probably discussed in regards to the child custody arrangement. Most custody arrangements take into account the academic schedule of the children, so the answer as to who has custody over Spring Break may be there. If there wasn’t a clear decision made at the time-or there hasn’t been one made yet-then you may want to think about how you’ve been distributing your time thus far. When it comes to the wellbeing and stability of your children, it is best to think about what would be better for them rather than what you or your former partner want.
Ask About Plans
Chances are, your ex also has an idea of what they want to do with the kids during break. Instead of putting together a massive trip, extend an olive branch and get in touch to find out what they have in mind for Spring break. There may be other things going on during that time that may prevent one of you from actually spending time with your children during Spring Break, making it a better idea for them to be with the available parent. If neither of you are planning on going out of town for the break, then it may be possible that you could split it 50/50.
Talk To Your Children
Spring Break isn’t always about jetting off to some exotic locale for a total abandonment of responsibilities. Just as adults tend to use their days-off from work constructively, children will sometimes have a purpose for their school-scheduled breaks. There are teachers that assign homework and major projects for Spring Break, which may limit options for how either parent-or the child-wants to do. There may also be things that your kids are interested in doing for their break that may be more applicable for one parent over the other. Consider setting aside your differences and talk to your children about how they want to spend their Spring Break.
Spring Break is supposed to be a time for children-and their parents-to relax. Planning ahead after a divorce can prevent added stress and allow everyone involved to have their chance during this transition.